[UAH] Nobody is irreplaceable
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Nobody is irreplaceablePublish Date: May 17, 2013
Sir Alex Ferguson bids farewell to his team Manchester United and fans at Old Trafford after he announced his retirement. Lovers should learn to let go
By Hilary Bainemigisha
There are few people who will resign and leave me heart broken. And Alex Fergusson is not one of them. In fact my excitement at his resignation was because one; it could mean the collapse of the Manchester United empire and two; it makes a good example to my LC chairman, who thinks our village would collapse without him.
But then, I woke up to reality. Even without systems, nature does not work like that. Take the Bible as an example. There was a man called Jesus Christ, who realised that the three-year term He had agreed upon with His dad to establish his kingdom on earth had expired without much success.
He had three options; to ask for another term, to die and let the disciples take over or to pass it on to His son. Sadly,
He had no son so option three was a non-starter. Option one, which is the most popular around these parts, was Jesus' preference.
He even pleaded with his dad for 'the cup to pass by' until he started sweating blood. But the Mzee stuck by his timetable and Jesus had to die and leave the mission to the disciples.
And they did such a good work! Look at Christianity today!
No matter how good you are, there will always be continuity with your replacement. And that replacement may even be better. Only that he or she has not been tried out does not mean there is no potential. If that does not humble you up, I have another example.
When I was in the seminary, we always had a strong football team. But, about 80% of the team would be in the fi nal year and the risk of the Arsenal nightmare after losing the bulk of the team at every end of the year, was real.
But it remained as hot air as Tinyefuza's outburst. A new team always emerged and sometimes even played better than Barcelona!
This is certainly not good news for lovers. When you are in love and being told you are the best, you want to feel irreplaceable and indispensable. And if, for whatever reason, you abandon ship, you want your ex to realise you were the best on earth and nobody else can love like you do.
You want your ex to suffer and miss you. But, sorry for you, people always come up to outshine you, and even make your ex regret all the 20-something years they wasted with you.
So, if you are being told you are super and incomparable, it may just be because your lover had a bad past. Or it may just be the usual feel good lies intimacy brings along. Or the sacks of money you love to give away.
Let it not deceive you that nobody can take Manchester United to more victories.
You may go and your successor brings in greater harvests. So, if you want to leave, do not stay because of sympathy. Retirement is much better than charity love.
That is why I can tell you boldly that you should never tie yourself onto a lover, who is threatening to leave. Look at me: how many scars do you think are on my heart?
Did I die? Who healed those wounds? I may not erase the feeling of great loss that comes with every heartbreak, but I can assure you that there will always be a replacement that measures up.
Tomorrow is fuller than a thousand yesterdays! Don't fear to let Ferguson go, or even the Pope, or your political leader, or your lover.
As a lover, try your best to be the best. But know that whatever best you offer, there may be better. This is nature's law, not mine.
Jesse
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