My husband has signed up to online dating sites

Second thoughts ... is my new husband just using me?

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SOUTH AFRICA

Last Updated: 15th October 2012

I'VE only been married two years and I've discovered my husband has registered himself on online dating websites.

I am 38 and live in South Africa. My husband is 43. When I confronted him about it he said that he didn't think we would make it through our first year of marriage and that's why he went looking for someone else. This is his second marriage and apparently he pulled these stunts with his first wife as well. I own everything in our marriage – the house, the car. Is he just using me as a meal ticket? Seeing that stuff on his phone was the last straw for me

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Sherbanoo Khan, Kariema Andrews and Aadila Latif like this.
Fudge Queen mxm. Shame the best thing to do is to turn to The Almighty and He will give u guidance . All the best my heart goes out for you.

March 16, 2013 at 12:57pm
Shamim Mitha Slms sis dis soo sad dis is a major issue in yor life n I personally U have to decide on dis yorself .I feel yor pain n hurt so sori n pls take care swty xxxx

March 16, 2013 at 1:00pm
Hassan Seedat I don't think he's worth it. He thought that marriage wouldn't last and he was already planning the next one, this is just a free meal ticket, send him packing sister

March 16, 2013 at 1:06pm · 9
Tony Saprano His not worth it ... Best to leave and find someone serious .may Allah give u that courage and wisdom .. Insha allah .

March 16, 2013 at 1:10pm
Ruwaida Samaai Adriaanse You marrid 2 that man,you should decide if you want 2 spent the rest of your life with him,no 1 can decide 4 you

March 16, 2013 at 1:27pm
Nazeera Khan In marriage its "ours" not mine and urs . I do thnk u shud sit dwn make mashoora with an elder n decide .

March 16, 2013 at 1:33pm · 1
Nazreen Amod Yip u a meal ticket.why wuld anyone go look somewhere else if they still in a marriage? What happened to trying to work things out n solving issues? Ifu love someone,u gna weather the winter n enjoy the summer.its total bs what men try n make themselve...See More

March 16, 2013 at 1:35pm · 3
Princess Layla Hamid Men like that never change my dear. Been there done that. May ALLAAH make it easy for u Inshalaah

March 16, 2013 at 1:37pm · 1
Kamran Siddique Give a walking ticket he is looking for some one who can fill his pocket the day he find that person u r out so THINK .

March 16, 2013 at 1:49pm
Fatima Abraham His a user. Get rid of him! U worth more then that.

March 16, 2013 at 1:53pm
Fazila Dhooma Ladies before making comments plz think. Islam gives women full right of ownership of her property. What belongs to the wife is hers to do as she wishes. Sister speak to the elders in your community for advice. The husband sounds shady.....

March 16, 2013 at 1:54pm · 7
Asiya Khalik Hi evening I read ur post do u love him do u wann be with him I can really help u make him stop jzk

March 16, 2013 at 2:05pm
Faeeza Goolam If she owns it then its hers, weather marriage or not, why would you want to share your stuff with someone who isn't even worth being called a husband, he is on a dating site an then you must still say its "ours". Yoh that is called for stupidity, shar...See More

March 16, 2013 at 2:07pm · 3
Hafiza Mohamed Royker You said it yourself, now u have to act

March 16, 2013 at 2:08pm
Yasmeen Thomas Hendricks @ fazila dhooma... Well Said & so true. According τσ Islam, what a woman owns & works ƒσr °̩ş HERS. Whether she °̩ş married or not.
Islam liberates women, it does not oppress them.
March 16, 2013 at 2:41pm · 3
Amina Vahed Sheik Wasn't dis post here before?
March 16, 2013 at 2:44pm · 1
Yusuf Mahomed Jakaria Suleman Go to your ulema or Jamiat for guodance

March 16, 2013 at 3:05pm
Zaffar Zaffz Mohamed U already have the answer. Don't let him waste anymore of your time.. Kick him to da curve

March 16, 2013 at 3:05pm · 5
Sherbanoo Khan Get rid of the scum - u have the answer in ur heart already.

March 16, 2013 at 4:04pm · 1
Ayesha Seedat Nw whose da resident witch Dr?! Didn't knw der was 1!!! Wid regards to da poster, Islaamically wats urs is urs so dnt thnk u obligated to gv him anythng, go for marriage councellin wid him to an Alim and c if it helps, den move forward frm der. Atleast den ul knw in ur heart u tried and its nt ur fault!

March 16, 2013 at 10:04pm
Zainub Mohamed U don't need him, leav da jerk!!

March 17, 2013 at 12:17am
Mu'aaz Daya @zeenat, I was wondering the exact sane thing

March 17, 2013 at 1:38am
Payal A N Haziz da resident witch Dr has to make a living. Also when ppl are venerable lol....

March 17, 2013 at 2:11am
Roeshana Alexander A wife possessions she enters into her marriage is hers not her husband's and will never be an ours. Facts be facts. A real man will not marry in doubt .Why are people on this page being so unnatural "unreal " .Islamic law "Shari'a " also state the hu...See More

March 17, 2013 at 3:15am
Roeshana Alexander Yes our Beloved Nabi Muhammad S.A.W.S married Khadija "rich widowed business woman " however they were business partners and still though she had more than Nabi, Allah did not take away the rights of Khadija as a wife of the Nabi S.A.W.S to be provided for as His Wife. Any man able to marry to what he can provide must be respected what Allah has made sufficient for him.

March 17, 2013 at 3:19am
Roeshana Alexander So WHAT NONESENSE IS THIS OF IN MARRIAGE IS NO LONGER YOURS AND MINE.EVEN THE NATURAL LAW IS WIFE STAYS HERS "EXCEPT WHEN SHE GIVES HER HUSBAND A GIFT " AND HUSBAND WILL ALWAYS BE BY TRUE NATURE A PROVIDER "within himself if he has little he will feel weak and have low Self esteem "

March 17, 2013 at 3:23am
Hoosna Mohammed U answered ur own question!His using u for a meal ticket, oh yes and much more.So leave him cus he married u for the wrong reasons any way.That's definitely not love!!!!!

March 17, 2013 at 5:07am
Samara Khana Who is a witch doctor

March 17, 2013 at 3:22pm