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SV: {UAH} EXCLUSIVE! Mukula, Gladys Set For Bitter Split Over 'Second Wife'

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Mw. Ssemuwemba and UAH folks,
It seemed both you and Ndugu Okurut want to encourage Mr Mukula with this old traditional job, which I think, must be clearly removed from our modern era thinking. Yes, it was good during the old days but, I think as we metamorphosed, things like traditional practices must as well evolves and become clearer with times.
Shall we even accept that our daughters should be as well polygamous? This brings me to the second question, will you folk accept your women to have co-husband as well?
Frankly, if we cannot accept, then I think Mr. Mukula though he had some good economy to support his family, he must even accept his wife to have a packet of CONDOMS in her handbag! My thinking is, that there must be removal of polygamy in Uganda!
 

Ocaya pOcure

 




Den lördag, 16 augusti 2014 0:45 skrev 'Simon Okurut' via Ugandans at Heart (UAH) Community <ugandans-at-heart@googlegroups.com>:


FN,

A little request please. Apart from Church marriages, where else is polygamy illegal? Even among Christians, there are many Christian husbands with more than one wife and what is more, priests often dine and wine with these polygamous families.

I am told that our national identity cards are designed for four spouses (wives) such that a person like Allan ( sorry  UAH's Allan to use that name, I really do not mean you but some other Allan in Teso) will have his four wives listed. If this is true, then what you are suggesting i.e. that the law against polygamy exists but is not enforced becomes contradiction. 

Honestly, the people engaging in polygamy know better why they are doing so, and those who observe monogamy or celibacy equally know why they prefer it and any law forbidding one type in favour of the other will always be circumnavigated, there is a way out.
Just imagine what takes place in Western countries that enforce one spouse at a time relationships. Some men and women have found  a way out, divorce and one goes for the loved other, get fed up, divorce and marry again or common law partnership, so it really does not work either way. Over a period of say 20 years, some people have married 10 times or more.

I think families should be left to decide on how best they can manage. As I said earlier, polygamy in Teso is rampant but it does not mean all Iteso embrace it. I am not bothered about it but if I am preaching, I teach what my faith tells me and for my fellow Iteso, I teach them how polygamy challenges individuals especially when it comes to the cost of living; the same applies to family planning where large families are problematic especially  with regard to high cost of living.

For a person like Mukula or any other including myself, the reasons for seeking another partner could include status, wealth, friends, culture, seeking for children or a different sex if the lady produces only one sex, family misunderstandings etc. 
I don't know what prompted Mike to do what he has done. I would counsel Gladys to take it calmly, dry run how their marriage has been in the past and what could have prompted her partner to do what he has done. She should let the dust settle down and may be the guy (Mike) will think over the matter. She can also get counseling services from Church and Elders. If she finds that Mike has committed an abomination, she can leave him alone.

I don't know, may be because I am from a polygamous family: my paternal grandpa had 5 wives; my maternal grandpa had more than 10 and old man wedded my grandma. Then closer home my father had 4 wives, my mother being No. 2); we the children relate so well our mothers never discriminated against their children.

 For me, other than Christian ethics that demand otherwise, polygamy is good for those who see value in it and bad for those who find nothing good in it, so let it be left to personal decisions and likes and dislikes.

Peter Simon


On Friday, August 15, 2014 5:36:18 PM, 'Federica Nshemereirwe' via Ugandans at Heart (UAH) Community <ugandans-at-heart@googlegroups.com> wrote:


Allan,

It is simple. Opt for the customary marriage which is allowed to be polygamous! In otherwords, be honest and don't go to curch to decieve someone in public!!

FN


On Saturday, August 16, 2014 12:13 AM, Abbey Semuwemba <abbeysemuwemba@gmail.com> wrote:


Federico,
Who has got kids with other men's wives?
As for Gladys, she should not  even think of ending her marriage because Mukula is playing the ball with someone else. Nothing good will come out of it. Women should only divorce men that do domestic violence, because that's is something very difficult for anyone to put out with. If your husband is a player, please use condoms when having sex, but don't end your marriage please!
Abbey
On 15 Aug 2014 20:36, "'Federica Nshemereirwe' via Ugandans at Heart (UAH) Community" <ugandans-at-heart@googlegroups.com> wrote:
There is a law against polygamy in Uganda. One of the legal types of marriage is monogamous. Once one is in it he is not allowed to change to polygamy. He is liable for 7 years imprisonment. Let Gladys know that. 

However, this law, like many in Uganda, are not enforced. That's one of the reasons of backwardness. I wonder where they would be taking the homosexuality law if they can't enforce these other ones. Mbu morality, my foot! How can someone with so many children outside marriage, even children from other people's wives, talk of a law to uphold morality!!

FN.


On Friday, August 15, 2014 6:57 PM, 'Simon Okurut' via Ugandans at Heart (UAH) Community <ugandans-at-heart@googlegroups.com> wrote:


Peter,

I have a little comment; polygamy is normal in Teso and it reigns high in Mukula's line (paternal & maternal) of birth. Nothing strange in Teso, if anything, he could be now apologizing for the delay, now he can confidently call himself a man of the people.

Gladys should calm down and allow the old man pass time, she got the better of his youthful life and romance; otherwise she risks being labelled a greedy old woman. 

Peter Simon


On Thursday, August 14, 2014 11:23:56 PM, Gwokto La'Kitgum <lakitgum@gmail.com> wrote:


EXCLUSIVE! Mukula, Gladys Set For Bitter Split Over 'Second Wife'
Woloxo doing rounds is that flamboyant flight captain George Mike Mukula's marriage is on rocks.
Woloxo says that for the last couple of months, Mike and his wife Gladys have not been on very good terms, with the wife bickering over her hubby's extra marital engagements. She has even threatened to end the marriage.
For quite some time it has been told that Mukula is close to various city babes, something his wife seems to have always ignored.
But lately, it is that she (Gladys) has not been impressed with the news that the former health minister is dating a certain city girl identified as Racheal Tania.
Mukula and Rachael are so serious that he has even been excitedly introducing her to his friends as his 'wife'. Chief among his buddies is President H.E Yoweri Museveni at a function recently.
All this is on top of giving her a senior job in his Uganda Aviation School located in Metropolitan House next to Kamu Kamu Plaza in k'la City centre. She is the marketing manager and controls the huge budget.
And somehow all this has not gone down well with Gladys who is said to be battling with stress.
Sources close to their home in Bugolobi add that for the last one month, Gladys has on many occasions abandoned their home.
" She no longer sleeps here regularly. A lot is going on in her head. She is a troubled old woman," said the source.
Not much is known about Racheal Tania but this source reveals that she has other fellas Mukula might not be aware of.
EXCLUSIVE! Mukula, Gladys Set For Bitter Split Over 'Second Wife' Woloxo doing rounds is that flamboyant flight captain George Mike Mukula's marriage is on rocks. Woloxo says that for the last couple of months, Mike and his wife Gladys have not been on very good terms, with the wife bickering over her hubby's extra marital engagements. She has even threatened to end the marriage. For quite some time it has been told that Mukula is close to various city babes, something his wife seems to have always ignored. But lately, it is that she (Gladys) has not been impressed with the news that the former health minister is dating a certain city girl identified as Racheal Tania. Mukula and Rachael are so serious that he has even been excitedly introducing her to his friends as his 'wife'. Chief among his buddies is President H.E Yoweri Museveni at a function recently. All this is on top of giving her a senior job in his Uganda Aviation School located in Metropolitan House next to Kamu Kamu Plaza in k'la City centre. She is the marketing manager and controls the huge budget. And somehow all this has not gone down well with Gladys who is said to be battling with stress. Sources close to their home in Bugolobi add that for the last one month, Gladys has on many occasions abandoned their home.
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