{UAH} The drama of dating in Uganda
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http://www.telegraph.co.uk/expat/expatlife/11753018/The-drama-of-dating-in-Uganda.html
One of the first questions you'll get as a woman from the average Ugandan man will be whether you have produced a child. From here it's only a matter of time – sometimes minutes – before the inevitable marriage proposal. Welcome to dating in Uganda.
I've had more marriage proposals here in Kampala than in the rest of my life. None of them have turned out to be serious of course – and sums it up really. Marriage is not such a serious matter here it seems.
Many conversations are high in sexual content. It's not unusual to have a Friday evening beer and overhear a Ugandan man boasting about his 'side dish' – or dishes.
Conversations with newly arrived expats are no different, turning very quickly to enquiries as to whether you have brought your family with you.
The typical male expat has it handed to him on a plate. Beautiful young Ugandan women – who may or may not be prostitutes, depending on the bar you frequent – will fall over themselves to make you and your male friends the centre of attention.
Single expat ladies find it difficult to embark on a committed relationship with an expat. Ugandan ladies are incredibly beautiful, and many are looking for a white man, so the average expat male has a choice of his "wife back home" and "my African wife" – a phrase I heard dropped into a recent conversation.
The chances of finding a legitimately single expat male in Uganda are few and far between – and Lord knows we look.
My female friends and I were at a party one night when an attractive guy turned up – without female company. "He looks cute," said Natalie.
"Get in line," said Tamara. The instruction was clear: there's a hierarchy here, based on how long you have been in the country.
It's quite common to be invited to a house party or barbecue, to find it two thirds single women. One of my friends returned to the UK just to find a boyfriend, and it's not a bad idea. When she had been on holiday in London, she found no end of available dates, but here in Kampala? Nothing.
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-- One of the first questions you'll get as a woman from the average Ugandan man will be whether you have produced a child. From here it's only a matter of time – sometimes minutes – before the inevitable marriage proposal. Welcome to dating in Uganda.
I've had more marriage proposals here in Kampala than in the rest of my life. None of them have turned out to be serious of course – and sums it up really. Marriage is not such a serious matter here it seems.
Many conversations are high in sexual content. It's not unusual to have a Friday evening beer and overhear a Ugandan man boasting about his 'side dish' – or dishes.
Conversations with newly arrived expats are no different, turning very quickly to enquiries as to whether you have brought your family with you.
The typical male expat has it handed to him on a plate. Beautiful young Ugandan women – who may or may not be prostitutes, depending on the bar you frequent – will fall over themselves to make you and your male friends the centre of attention.
Single expat ladies find it difficult to embark on a committed relationship with an expat. Ugandan ladies are incredibly beautiful, and many are looking for a white man, so the average expat male has a choice of his "wife back home" and "my African wife" – a phrase I heard dropped into a recent conversation.
The chances of finding a legitimately single expat male in Uganda are few and far between – and Lord knows we look.
My female friends and I were at a party one night when an attractive guy turned up – without female company. "He looks cute," said Natalie.
"Get in line," said Tamara. The instruction was clear: there's a hierarchy here, based on how long you have been in the country.
It's quite common to be invited to a house party or barbecue, to find it two thirds single women. One of my friends returned to the UK just to find a boyfriend, and it's not a bad idea. When she had been on holiday in London, she found no end of available dates, but here in Kampala? Nothing.
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