{UAH} Why can’t my son find love?

Why can't my son find love?

Written by DORA LIZ NANSAMBA

 Last Updated: 04 September 2015

 

George is my only son, my second born of three children. Growing up, he was the most helpful and obedient of all my children. He cleaned, cooked and welcomed everyone with a smile.

He fell in love with a beautiful girl, and they had a child together; a baby boy. But since the girl had not yet finished school, the girl's parents took her back to school. It was painful for my son to be away from the woman he loves. But what had to be done, had to be done.

Away from my son, my daughter-in-law fell in love with a rich man. This shattered my son's dreams. He resorted to drinking. I involved many counselors, relatives, friends and professionals, to bring my son back on track.

"You have to pick yourself up and at least live for your child," I told him one day.
"I don't know how to live without Besta," he cried. 
"George, life goes on regardless of the magnitude of heartbreaks." I could see I wasn't making headway. George seemed to have gone into withdrawal from the world, because of Besta, the woman of his life.

I prayed for my son. I continued counseling him, and one day, just by luck, Besta came back. George forgave her without hesitation and they started a new life together. I was happy.

I saw a smile on my son's face again. Life was good. I am the kind of mother-in-law who prides in having happy children. I helped my daughter-in-law settle in, and in a few months, she was pregnant. She gave birth to a beautiful baby girl; as beautiful as the mother. Her name is Princess.

This time, I don't know what happened, but the fights between Besta and George resumed. By this time their little Princess was four years old. At one point, she attempted to hack George with a machete. Neighbours and family friends got involved and the domestic violence case was reported to police, which later referred them to court.

I was hurting so much for my son, because I knew by this time their marriage was going to the drains; so, I refused to go to court with him. I hated to see Besta and George shout at each other. I will, therefore, not character- assassinate my daughter-in-law. When George and his friends came back, I saw Princess walking with her dad, but Besta was not with them. I did not ask questions, because I am a coward.

"Mother, you can now welcome your single son, a single parent too. But never mind. I will take care of Princess and her brother," George said.
"Princess, you came back? Where is Mummy?" I asked as I hugged my granddaughter.

"Mummy haj gone. I want to chtay wij Daddy," Princess said.
I looked in George's direction. I wanted answers, yet I feared to know the truth.

"Mother, Besta insisted she was not coming back ever. So, the judge sent us all out and stayed with Princess and the women. He asked Princess if she wanted to live with me or her Mummy, and she said she wanted to live with me. So, the judge ruled that I live with Princess, and remain in my house," George hurriedly explained.
"My son, why bring in the house?" I asked.

"Because Besta wanted to take the house as well," he said. I sighed.

My son made huge sacrifices for his children. He loved them and looked after them perfectly. I was proud of him, but I still felt he needed a partner with whom he should share his life. And he got one.

A nice, well-behaved lady. My happiness returned.  But after she had her first born, she also threw tantrums here and there, and claimed that she needed George to stay at home and look after her, actually to stop working, if I must put it clearly. This daughter-in-law also packed her bags and went away.

My son got into a relationship with another lady, but has never felt like their hearts are together. He is just in the relationship, just for just.
Why can't my son find love?

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Gwokto La'Kitgum

"Even a small dog can piss on a tall Building", Jim Hightower

"But this I know, UPC believed and still believes in

very high education. We can call Obote all bad names we have, but the bottom line remains that he got more scholarships for Buganda than all previous Uganda leaders combined. That includes Sir Edward Mutesa, President Lule, President Binayisa, up to and into Ssabasajja Mutebi. Who all happen to be Baganda leaders." Mulindwa

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