{UAH} SELF esteem and Children

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SELF esteem and Children

Communication is the only way we assess esteem...someone's ability to communicate effectively is one of the ways of seeing into the mind, heart and soul of a person.(mbu)

I once received a parent at the nursery we shall call the boy hassan. He was somali…and he came with his grandmother and a translator. The grandmother was speaing somali at 90mph and the translator was speaking at 90km per hour and very loud if I may add.

I looked at the boy and I didn't break eye contact … he finally maintained eye conatc and then we kept contact…as the others rattled on and on, he looked at me…after 5 minutes I called him to me. And he came to me I asked him to get closer and I asked him in a whisper…"Do these always speak like that? He looked at me and nodded. I patted his hand and told him to go play at the swings. Both ladies squealed in protest but I insisted and I nodded for him to go out side.

Then I concentrated on the ladies: Apparently the boy was about 7 years old and spoke no English (he has wasted money for a whole year…the grand mother spoke in somali and the interpreter put in more feelings) Apparently he would hide under the table in class and the teachers wrote him off. So, somewhere some how they were directed to us, a considerably cheaper option.

The boy was taken to middle class, the following day, the teacher told me that the boy was able to write and speak some English by the end of the week the boy had been moved to top class. When I asked the middle class teacher about his character… she said he didn't like being shouted at or put on pressure...he preferred to be encouraged...

In this case home and school(former) and both contributed in forming this boys negative character. The home environment and school environment were both negative and he was forced to adapt.

By the time we closed for Corvid he loved school, came the earliest and left the latest. Regardless of his size, he is gentle and just a normal rambunctious 6 year old. He talks a lot more and his grand mother came to me minus the translater and spoke in rapid Somali as she looked through his book. She kept touching her heart and smiling...

My other case is a 12 year boy we shall call John, very withdrawn, extremely soft spoken...diagnosis low esteem lack of self drive... After two weeks he is smiling speaks loud enough...and he has a cocky adoloscent swag. He is an average student and in a class where the teacher wants to push the average he was more often behind...so he got caned and after a while, the teachers got tired and wrote him off...and made it public knowledge in class.

The poor darling just withdrew ... And stopped making the effort. It has taken a while for him to get to finish an assignment AND, now he asks for assignment and attempts it to the best of his ability...

All he needed was an adult especially a teacher to appreciate his effort as the best he could offer as an individual not as part of a swarm.

His parents are very supportive given that is is in p.6 a pre candidate class there is not so much the parents can do to intervene or break the gruelling routine that is PUMPING... So their child was losing himself and their hands are tied...

As teachers our hands are tied about what happens to the the children at home but if we create a safe haven for these children then, we counter any negativity from home or compliment the positivity from hom.

These young children are innocents or blank pages with every experience embossed onto their charcter sheet. WORSE STILL…this influences the child's readiness to communicate.

If your child leaves nursery quiet goes to primary and it is the same thing….there is a high chance that you will keep wondering why your child does not speak.


Not to be confused with naturally reserved people who will keep quiet and then speak to those they are close to. My sons are like that. My son is always known as If not the quietes in a school…among the top quiet ones UNTIL his mother comes and he talk laughs and even giggles. My house is LOUD but if someone new comes they keep quite…but my sons can communicate effectively.

So what is happening to your children...can you find out the last time your child spoke...??? Communicated to you... Or when you had a conversation with them???

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